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"I have to get lots and lots of rest tonight and eat a healthy breakfast in the morning," Calvin says as I pick him up from school.
"Oh really! Why's that?" I ask.
"Tomorrow, I'm the helper."
Each day, Calvin's class has a different student helper.
The student helper turns the lights on/off, and passes out papers, and organizes the class line as they walk to and from the playground. There are 24 students in Calvin's class. There are 180 days in the school year. Each student will be the helper 7-8 times.
I don't know if they know that yet. Maybe they'll sort it out when they get deeper into their arithmetic unit.
I like the idea of student helper. Kids want to help—let them help!
Adults too. We all want to help.
In fact, one counterintuitive way to get someone to like you is to ask them to do you a favor. This is known as the Ben Franklin effect. It was a favored tactic of the colonial statesman. A theory is that doing the favor creates cognitive dissonance in the mind of the helper. Their internal dialogue thinks: "I'd only do a favor for someone I like...so I must like this person."
My personal theory of friendship is that we do small favors for each other, small favors escalate to big favors, and eventually we lose the score and just count each other as friends.
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I've been told my help isn't helpful sometimes. Sometimes, it's even the opposite.
That hurts.
l don't want to be unhelpful.
But this is helpful feedback. We can only help people where they're open to help. We have to love people in ways they want to be loved. Loving people on our own terms might not be love at all. We have to study how we can be helpful.
We're all student helpers.
If you can't think of a word say, 'I forget the English word for it.'
That way people will think you're bilingual instead of an idiot.
*image by Dad[AI]Base
**quote from unattributed image with lots of social media reposts.
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Why I am not a Quaker by Ben Hoffman
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If you have time, I'm working on a couple essay drafts and I'd love your feedback:
4 Running Lies I Was Told in PE
Reflections on running and a family running event from last month. This is mostly polished up, but would like to make sure the writing is clear. Is there anything you think I should expand on?
This is more of a doodle right now...trying to think about how AI will change the future. I need to flesh out the subsections, but I find myself losing interest in this project at times. I don't know what I'm trying to turn it into. Is this interesting? Do you have other thoughts about domains that will be reshaped by AI?
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